"I used to take 'em out to eat but they wasn't really eatin', Mighta got a little head but I wasn't really cheatin"
Above is an excerpt from the song 'faithful' by MC Common Sense, which further insists that receiving oral satisfaction from the opposite sex is not really cheating. Every woman I've conversed with on the subject of this particular regulation of infidelity, has found it quite comical that a person would even wrap their mind around such a falsehood. On the contrary, a generously large amount of dudes feel solely the act of 'penetration' during sexual intercourse with another person is subsequent for grounds for cheating.
Now, ask any guy ( in a cross examination sort of way) " If you saw ya' girl having a convo' with a girl outside a club with some dude, although she told you she was going to be at her sister's house babysitting her niece, what would you say? " 9 times out of 10, this guy is going to be upset at being led astray, and also might even go as far as accusing his girl of cheating. But hey! there was no 'penetration'...there en lies the notorious double standard, which is a whole other topic all together. Through my travels, and trivial trials "I just fucked her, I don't love her " has arisen in many of my conversations about the not so blurry lines of cheating. This theory totally eliminates any sexual activity as being a main component of cheating, but instead claims an emotionally connection to be the culprit.
The bottom line...If you were to grab the nearest Webster's and look up the word "cheating" it would say " a deception for profit to yourself" or " violating accepted standards or rules" or even "not fair; marked by injustice or partiality or deception". These are all good definitions, all true and very evident of the varying nature of what happens when something is manipulated to save feelings, something sculpted and molded in order to cohere with any given situation. Basically the true definition in cheating lies in your heart...so...If you feel like you're doing something wrong and that other person is not going to approve, whether it be head, a fuck on the beach or game of trivial pursuit in your pajamas...its cheating.
"RaseanJ"